After I wrote that title, I thought, "that sounds like I have been given a two-week notice", but in fact, my job is alive and as busy as ever, so in case you were worried about me being gainfully employed, we're covered there.
This is probably too personal, but it is currently rolling through my head over and over and over, thus causing me stress - and even loss of sleep last night. Hence the blog, to get it out and hopefully prevent loss of sleep about it again tonight.
In Chad's divorce decree, during the summer period, his former spouse is allowed to select two weekends from our time with the kids to keep them. Not ideal because of course we never want to give up time with the kids, but okay, I can live with that because it's perceived as fair. What I can't live with is that these two weekend time refusals only need 14 days notice.
Yep, so if you happened to plan a trip, or hey, even a wedding, as soon as the email pops up saying, "Guess what - my turn in 14 days", it doesn't matter what you have planned - you are legally bound to oblige for the weekend.
This system is for the birds. How does anyone successfully book flights for summer vacations, or schedule family parties, or (again) plan a wedding without the voice in the back of their head saying, "p.s., your kids might be pulled out of this at the last minute". Apparently all meaningful activities that you wouldn't want your kids to miss during the summer must be planned Monday - Thursday....which is nearly impossible for those in the working world. :(
I am really buggered about this ridiculous contract clause.
Oh girl...
ReplyDeleteI guess these contracts only work between parents who are willing to work together. Spiteful exes can get away with anything these days...with the blessing of the court system. I'm so sorry you're having to go through with this.
All the more reason to elope. =)